Mitch.... Slept on it and figured out the problem. While trying to get TR4W to read the remote K3 freq/mode, I must have touched the RS232 setting on the remote K3 and changed it from 38400 to something else (most likely 19200, as the K3 would stop communicating at that instant). Because CW and audio come to me via the RRC and not direct from the remote K3, that explains why I still had CW input and audio output.
So I changed the control K3 to 19200, as well as both RRCs (radio and serial) via internet to 19200, and connected successfully to the remote K3. Seems to work a bit better than it did at 38400, but not sure why, unless the remote Internet (UVerse) was choking. Had many issues with it in January, and AT&T did slow down my rate then to make connection more reliable. (We were trying to push a very long cable too fast)
The next step is to reset the remote K3 to 38400, immediately losing contact with it, and then repeat the process for the control K3 and RRCs.
I am already using Mode 7 for K3 twin, and have in the past successfully read the remote mode/freq with COM0 mirroring COM2. Will see what happens when I fiddle with COM0 as you suggest.
Thanks.... Mel KJ9C